April Showers Bring May Flowers

It seems like many people drag themselves and their relationship through the holiday season because the thought of splitting up at this time of year just seems too difficult and overwhelming.  February rolls around and people are feeling at an all time low, especially if they live in a colder climate where they aren’t getting enough sunlight and vitamin D.

And then comes spring!  Our energy returns, the snow melts away, and somehow the future seems bright again and we are ready to face the world.  Along with this seems to come a lot of separation and divorce.

The analogy in the title is really quite apt.  The beginning of your separation may be laden with anxiety, fears and possibly even lots of tears.  But then the light of spring appears and you feel ready to bloom, to face the new life waiting for you to discover it.

Now is the perfect time to get that spring cleaning done – clean out your house, your wardrobe, and even all those heavy emotions that are weighing you down.

Let’s start with the house.  Personally, this is a great time to purge and get rid of all the things that you don’t need, want or use. Even though my ex took what he wanted with him when he moved out, I still packed up many boxes of his things and dropped them off on a regular basis.  I didn’t feel it was my place to give these things away or throw them out.  Another choice I made that was very positive for me was to get new bedding.  It felt fresh and new and feminine and made me happy.  I also repainted my bedroom a matching fresh, light colour.

And now on the wardrobe!  Many of us, both men and women, make fashion choices not just based on our personal taste but also that of our partner.  It’s a great opportunity to do a good clean up of your wardrobe, keep what you love and wear and give away what you don’t need, or maybe even has negative reminders associated with it.  Besides, now that you have your own closet you need to reorganize it anyway!  So kill two birds with one stone.

Finally, and less obvious, is that now is a good time to spring clean your emotions.  You may have been carrying around a whole maelstrom of emotions surrounding your separation, for months, or even years in some cases.  Time to take stock and let go of those negative emotions that have been weighing you down.  Let go of the hurt, the pain and the anger.  And open yourself up to the huge array of positive and wonderful emotions that are just waiting to be discovered by you.  And enjoy the journey!