01 Aug How I Became A Divorce Coach
How I Became A Divorce Coach
When people ask me what I do and I tell them that I am a divorce coach, I get a variety of reactions. Some people have an immediate positive response and tell me that they think it’s a fantastic idea and a really useful service to offer. Yet others take in my response slowly as the look of confusion passes over their face, and they ask me – what is a divorce coach?
Well before I answer that question, let me give you a little bit more of the backstory. I suppose it goes without saying that I am divorced. I was separated in March 2009 and then legally divorced by December 2010. By many people standards, that seems pretty quick. But it certainly didn’t feel like it to me at the time. My two kids were still in grade school and I had been a stay at home mom up until that point. There were a lot of changes ahead of me.
Over the next few years, I had many friends ask for my opinion as they started down their own road of divorce. But more surprisingly, is the number of times I would be approached in the schoolyard after drop off and asked if I could go for coffee one day. I knew these invitations were usually other moms thinking about divorce. So often, when we get to this point in our relationship we feel very alone. Given the statistics for divorce, this may sound surprising. I can tell you firsthand that many people don’t have anyone to talk to you about divorce.
A few years ago, I helped a couple of very close friends through their own legal battles step-by-step. It was one of these friends who told me that I need to do this. At first, I laughed it off. But a few months later, she brought it up again.
After doing a little bit of research online, to my surprise I discovered there were many people offering divorce coaching services in other cities. So I decided to hang up my shingle and put myself out there!
At first, I thought that this service would only appeal to women. Well that was my biggest mistake. The response to my business has been overwhelming and positive. But surprisingly, my clientele is equally divided between women and men. Now I realize that it makes perfect sense for a man to work with a female divorce coach. I am often able to offer perspective that allows a man to see the situation from the other side. And when I am working with women, I get it because I have been where they are. And I am in a position to help them get to where I am – a happily divorced single mother of two wonderful children, loving life every day.
If you want to hear more, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me for a complementary consultation on how I can help you too!
As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands: one for helping yourself, the other for helping others. - Audrey Hepburn